Well, it has been quite a while since I have written anything for my blog, not that I haven’t got much to write about...on the contrary, I have far too much to write about in this weird scenario that I have in my life, that I actually find the concept of writing anything rather daunting.
Anyhow, enough of this rambling....
Hubby and I were having a conversation one evening recently and we ended up having a discussion about a rather strange issue that seems to pop up at frequent intervals during Cherry Darling’s performances. There are times, when perfectly rational (and generally sober) men, have actually become besotted with Cherry and have tried to become her significant other. I know! It surprises me, but it has really happened. I did wonder if it was done as a sort of bet, or if they were just playing along, which of course does happen and that is understandable, however in some cases it gets a bit more serious than just flirting and buggering about, they want a relationship!
We always knew that a drag act is a bit of a “Marmite” experience, there would always be a split audience where drag queens were concerned – and it is generally men of a certain generation, around 50-60 years old, (not that I am judgmental or anything about these old blinkered gits...) who usually the negative outlook on this sort of entertainment and have the need to say something like, “Whoa careful, backs to the wall, here comes that tranny!” thinking that someone of such style and taste Like Mme Darling herself, would want to play tonsil hockey with some ageing social outcast, but not wanting to generalise (oh bugger it, it’s out there now...) they are what the general populace would refer to as “mingers”, with comb over hair, very few of their own teeth, halitosis that could floor a rhino, with the dress sense of Hannibal Lecter – mask optional.
But we are not going to waste anymore time talking about these myopic deadbeats, although it’s good fun, but it is the flip side of that coin, it’s those guys who become besotted by Cherry - straight, gay, (even a lesbian once made advances) it astounds me that such an attraction can occur with someone, who for all intents and purposes, is a bloke in a dress!!
I do admit that there have been times where men, who are slightly worse for wear, do actually mistake Cherry for a woman and make advances. Of course, Cherry plays along and enjoys the awkwardness when they actually find out. There has even been one instance where Cherry has been actually out in drag, pulled a bloke and snogged him rotten, whilst his wife stood and watched on bemused (I have to say this is before we got together, however I have had it confirmed from a reliable source). She tried to intervene, but Cherry told her to "wait outside until I have finished!!!" And she did too...
There have been numerous men on social network sites asking for dates, and more besides... men from both the straight and gay side of things have wanted Cherry to be their girlfriend, even when they knew ‘she’ was a ‘he’ who was civilly partnered, they didn’t care about that aspect - they wanted Cherry to be their significant other and they wanted to take her out and spoil her and bring her back home to me afterwards. It reminded me of a drag version of “Memoirs of a Geisha”, only with more makeup and less sushi.
The piece-de-resistance occurred last year, when Cherry was working in London at a party where a host of A-list celebrities had also been invited to, that an extremely wealthy, tuxedoed (and straight) gent actually proposed to her, knowing full well she was a cock in a frock. Of course Cherry actually admitted to being married already and declined, much to this gent’s disappointment (and mine...we could’ve had a Sugar Daddy!!!) but the gender illusion has that much power it ceases to amaze me.
And I suppose you are wondering how I feel about all this unwanted attention? Well, to be honest, I just sit back and watch the events unfold, I just wish I had popcorn...
When Cherry is dressed and out there doing her thing I know it is an act – and to be perfectly honest I am not a jealous person, in my view it is a very negative emotion and causes a great deal of problems amongst couples and I have seen the damage it can cause. It does help that I am very reserved and sometimes people do worry and actually check to see if I am alive and to see there is still a pulse. Of course there is a negative side to this attention, which has caused a number of people to stalk Cherry, which worried me, but so far has been managed and nothing major has occurred and long may it continue. So long as everyone has a good time, feels good about themselves, enjoys the show and has a positive experience then it’s not a problem.
Also, whilst I am writing, I am going to mention that Cherry is going to appear on TV on The Weakest Link on Monday 3rd October, on BBC2 at 2.15pm. I hope you tune in...
